The fine art of conversation is not as difficult as you might think. It seems to come more easily to some than others, but if you believe it’s just down to a natural talent, then you are wrong. There are just a few things you need to understand about what makes women tick. Once you’ve mastered this, then there’s no reason why you can’t approach any girl you like and strike up an easy and comfortable conversation which could lead to infinite possibilities. Read on to find out how to talk to woman with complete confidence and absolute success.
1. Have a plan and a goal
You should have a clear and established goal before you start talking to a girl you like. What exactly do you want to get out of the encounter? For instance, if you’re looking for a one night stand, you would want to focus your efforts on heavy flirting or sexual innuendos. On the other hand, if you want a girlfriend, then you would follow the standard conversation tactics and gentle flirting, to attract her for longer-term purposes. When you approach a girl with a plan, it becomes easy to steer the interaction towards your desired outcome.
2. Overcome any shyness or nervousness
Lack of confidence is a complete attraction-killer. If you get nervous talking to women, then you’re definitely not displaying that most attractive of male traits: confidence. In order to be successful in talking to women, you must overcome any lack of confidence in conversation. You can do this by initiating conversations with everyone you meet. Over time, your confidence will naturally build and grow and it will increase your natural attractiveness, when talking to women.
3. Be comfortable in yourself and let your personality shine
There is little that is less attractive than a man who brags. Women honestly do not care about what car you drive or what wonderful possessions you have. Showing off simply smacks of low self-esteem and desperation. These men feel they have to prove their worth; whereas a guy who’s comfortable in his own skin knows his worth. So instead of talking about your accomplishments, just focus on being a fun and exciting guy.
4. Take control
Keep that goal in mind and the conversation should always be going in the direction you want it to. If things get boring, then immediately switch to another topic. If you have enough material, you can keep your girl entertained and exude naturally attractive qualities. Keep a supply of entertaining stories which you can fall back on; tales which subtly demonstrate your personality and humor. If you run out of stories, then you can also try asking her questions about herself: this shows that you are genuinely interested in her and proves that you’re a good listener, too.
5. Be aware of no-no conversations
The last thing you want to do is say anything negative or damaging. Some common mistakes include:
Making fun of yourself: Don’t talk about a subject that involves ridiculing yourself, emphasizing a weakness, or putting yourself down. If you don’t find yourself appealing, why on earth would she?
Negative topics: Don’t talk about money, politics, religion or a horrific news story. Keep the conversation upbeat and lively.
Dirty jokes: You run the risk of seriously repulsing her.
Swearing: All in all, bad language is a massive turn-off.
Complaining and arguing: don’t be a moaner, no-one likes to hear it. And if you disagree with something she says, challenge her to tell you more, but don’t argue and insult her.
Kissing her ass: Never put her on a pedestal. Be a challenge for her.
So these are the 5 basic rules in the art of conversation. It all takes practice, but keep all of this in mind and you’ll soon wonder what you were ever worried about!